Breaking Up With Starbucks is Hard to Do

Happy National Pink Day Everyone!

As you all know from my previous post, my husband and I are on a one-month restaurant diet, giving up spending money at all dining establishments, including Starbucks (Gasp! Can this be true!). 

Well, yes it is and let me tell you, giving up Starbucks for a month is like breaking up with your best friend – and that is hard to do. It’s been 9 days, and counting, since I had my last Starbucks. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about running to the green mermaid with open arms. Does she miss me as much as I miss her? Now I know how smokers feel when they are trying to quit.

A sad day in Starbucks land...

A sad day in Starbucks land...

BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO

Nearly every day of the week I would pass by at least 3 Starbucks on my way to work. I would not say that I felt tempted, because Starbucks was not a treat, it was a necessity in the morning for me. Now, I still pass by those same three Starbucks, whimpering a little as I fail to turn into that familiar parking lot. The first few days were extremely difficult, with extra stress at work combined with less and less sleep at night. During business meetings, I would see team members with Starbucks cups and think they were tormenting me. I seemed to want Starbucks all the time, but that feeling became less and less prominent by the end of the first week.

TRYING TO COPE WITH A STARBUCKS LOSS

On one tough morning, I even tried replacing my frozen frappuccino  with the bottled liquid version you can buy at the grocery store. But, who am I kidding, it’s just not same. It’s almost like a tease, they make you think you are getting a frap by putting the name on the bottle, but then give you a second-rate drink – kind of a bait and switch.

Also, my husband I would frequent our local Barnes and Noble, which happily, and quite conveniently sells Starbucks’ addictive java concoctions. We used to love going there to just be among the books and, of course, enjoy a hot chocolate and a double chocolate chunk cookie. Although I have been to that same B&N in the last week, I passed right by the cafe without stopping or looking in the general vicinity of the counter. I wonder if the people behind the counter, who know me by face, are sneering at me because I’m not making my usual stop??

Fueling my Starbucks addiction at Barnes and Noble Cafe...

Fueling my Starbucks addiction at Barnes and Noble Cafe...

CAN A BREAK UP HAVE BENEFITS?

Ok, enough griping. I’ve been telling you all about the hardships of giving up Starbucks, but now I want to share the good things about breaking my Starbucks habit. 

To compensate for my loss, I’ve been trying to replace my Starbucks habit with other, healthier habits. Before, I would eat breakfast at home, then stop at Starbucks on my way to work. Getting the Starbucks was automatic even though I wasn’t very hungry after breakfast. Now, I get to work a little earlier and treat myself to a more relaxed, slow breakfast of Greek yogurt with gourmet – but less expensive than Starbucks – tea, or something equally as yummy.

A lovely pot of Taylors of Harrogate English Breakfast tea

Taylors of Harrogate English Breakfast tea - A Starbucks replacement.

And, because I’m not eating breakfast at home, followed by a “second breakfast” at Starbucks, I don’t crave sugar for the rest of the day like I used to. And, those yummy giant chocolate chunk cookies I used to buy at B&N have been replaced with smaller, but still oh-so-yummy homemade oatmeal chocolate chip cookies. With these new habits, I’m actually saving more than a few dollars, a few hundred calories each day, and have lost a little weight in the process. But, unfortunately, when you make 4 dozen cookies and eat them in 5 days, it kind of has the opposite effect on your weight. 

Now, for those of you who are still addicted to Starbucks and wonder why I’m putting myself through this grief – take heart! I haven’t given up Starbucks completely. If someone were to offer to buy me a tall mocha frap – I would be happy to oblige in his or her generosity.

A Midsummer's Night and An Early Morning

Summer Solstice – It is a time when pagan, druids, Christians, and many other religions celebrate the longest day of the year. In Latin, Soltice is derived from sol – meaning sun – and sistere – which means to stand still, hence the longest day of the year. For modern pagans, the Summer Solstice is a spiritual holiday, celebrating the marriage of heaven and earth. In the United States, Summer Solstice takes place on June 21 each year, which also marks the first day of summer.

Stonehenge - in all of it's glory.

Stonehenge - in all of it's glory.

In the United Kingdom, Summer Solstice is not seen as the beginning of summer, but rather as midsummer. In Celtic folklore, midsummer is the time when fairies and other mystical beings come out of hiding to dance and join in the celebrations. The famous bard himself – William Shakespeare – dramatized this legend in his play A Midsummer Night’s Dream, one of my favorite Shakespearean plays.

I was listening to my favorite classical radio station yesterday – June 21 – when I was delighted to hear Mendelssohn’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream, narrated by none other than British actress Dame Judi Dench (M from the James Bond films). This version of the story is probably my absolute favorite rendition. There’s nothing like hearing Shakespeare spoken by a true Shakespearean actress!

Celebrating Summer Solstice usually involves bonfires, music, dancing, and, many times, large festivals where people stay up all night to welcome the rise of the sun. One of the most famous festivals takes place at Stonehenge in England. I’ve been to Stonehenge and it is a very unique place, full of mystery and beauty. During the week of Summer Solstice, people travel from all over the world to Stonehenge for many believe it is a sacred place, grounded in druid religion, but shrouded in Arthurian legend.

Although my husband and I are not pagans, each year, we try to celebrate the Summer Solstice in our own way, whether it’s taking a nighttime walk together or having dinner outside on the deck listening to classical music. This year, we combined many of these things by going to an outdoor concert, complete with dining under the sun followed by dancing under the stars.

An outdoor summer concert to celebrate Summer Solstice!

An outdoor summer concert to celebrate Summer Solstice!

It truly was a beautiful evening, but our attempt to stay out into the wee hours of the morning fell short. We ended our celebration just before 9:30 PM, much to my husband’s disappointment, and headed home. Even after leaving the celebration early, I still did not get to sleep until after 11 PM, which made for a very early morning, considering I had to be up at 5:45 AM to be at work at 7:30 AM.

Hence, no run, no yoga, and no yummy breakfast picture to show you, just a lot of dark circles under my eyes. Maybe next year, we’ll plan a little better!

Happy Summer Solstice everyone!

Hats and Horses: My Own Royal Ascot

Bonjour everyone! Hope your morning is as sunny and warm as mine is! I started my day off with something rich and sweet –  coffee cake. Not my typical healthy fare, but it was so good that I didn’t care! In preparation of this tasty treat, I ran a few extra minutes – it’s all about balance ladies!

Pecan coffee cake and English Breakfast tea- a sweet treat for breakfast!

Pecan coffee cake and English Breakfast tea- a sweet treat for breakfast!

And speaking of rich and sweet, for those of you who follow British news (like I do), the Royal Ascot took place last week. Many of you might wonder – what exactly is the Royal Ascot? Well, quite frankly, it is a posh horse race, similar to the US Kentucky Derby or the Belmont Stakes.

Royal Ascot takes place over 5 days in June at the Ascot Racecourse. Ascot Racecourse is a famous English racecourse, located 50 minutes outside of London. It is one of the leading racecourses in the United Kingdom and has close ties to the British Royal Family. Royal Ascot is one of the world’s most famous horse race meetings at Ascotdating back to 1711. It is a major event in the British social calendar, and press coverage of the attendees and what they are wearing often exceeds coverage of the actual racing.

According to several reports, Royal Ascot 2009 was attended by Queen Elizabeth II, who has been to every Ascot meeting since 1945. The monarch, who arrived with the royal family in their traditional carriage procession around the course, wore a golden yellow-and-white silk dress.

Now, I’ve never been a gambler, but it has become a tradition for my husband and I to go to the horse races over Father’s Day weekend with his parents.  Each time we go, I can’t help but think of the wonderful movies that featured British horse races. Sadly, our race course will never be of My Fair Lady quality, but it did undergo a huge renovation a few years ago which greatly improved its reputation.

And they're off! A day at the races with this Bistro Chic girl...

And they're off! A day at the races with this Bistro Chic girl...

But, as I mentioned above the real reason women in Britain go to the Royal Ascot is to see and be seen – particularly in their fancy dress clothes and hats! So, this year, during my annual trip to the race track, I thought I’d do a little investigation to see how fancy women attending a local US horse race really are. 

To prepare, I sported my own pink-striped, wide-brim hat and dark sunglasses which allowed me to remain incognito during my investigative assignment. Being in disguise definitely has its benefits!

The very perky pink-striped hat kept me shaded all afternoon.

To my surprise, and despite the very warm temperatures, I saw very few hats being warn by women. And, many of the hats I did see would not be considered fancy enough for British taste (unless baseball caps have become Ascot-worthy). I walked up and down the aisles and throughout the grandstands, hoping to find at least a few lavish brims. Although it took most of the afternoon, I did find a handful of these gems, although they were definitely not as showy or flamboyant as those seen at Ascot or even the Kentucky Derby. 

A sample of hats from a day at the races!

A sample of hats from a day at the US races!

There was one other older woman in a very large navy-brimmed hat with white polka-dots. Wow, that hat was something else! Too bad the women was in the upper grandstands where I could not get a good shot of her.

Well, after nearly 3 hours of sleuthing around, I really had no more to show than a few basic brims and sore feet. I heard from a reliable source – aka my mother-in-law –  that you have to get to the track really early to see the best hats. I guess the early girl gets the hat in this case!

I’m off for a fun-filled day of shopping and then on to an outdoor musical performance!

Ciao!

The One-Month Restaurant Diet: 5 Reasons to Stop Dining Out

My hubby and I are starting a month-long experiment – to not spend any of our own money on dining out. So, from June 15 through July 14, we have agreed to not spend our own money on Starbucks (ouch!) or any dining establishment for any meal for any reason, not even take-out. 

Why are we putting ourselves through this luxury food diet? Well, there are 5 main reasons:

Frequent dining out can drain your piggy bank.

Frequent dining out can drain your piggy bank.

  1. We spend WAY too much money on going out to eat. On average, for the last year, we’ve spent about $475 a month (that’s $110 a week!)  a month on outside-the-home dining, and that’s in addition to groceries. That’s $5,700 a year – easily two vacations or a trip to Europe!

    Dining al fresco - an alternative to dining out.

    Dining al fresco - an alternative to dining out.

  2. We want to be more European. According to a recent report, Europeans are the least likely to venture out for a meal, with more than half saying they only go out to eat once a month. Like the French, most Europeans prefer to eat meals prepared at home with friends and family – a la the French lifestyle. Maybe that’s why they are so thin! For many Americans, eating out every day for every meal is just fine because they won’t so much as boil water or fry an egg. As for my husband and I, we like to cook and, for the most part, are pretty good at it. I’m sure after a month of cooking all meals at home, we’ll get even better.         
    No more daily trips to the green mermaid!

    No more daily trips to the green mermaid!

     

  3. We want to break our bad habits. Time or lack of it, is a major factor in why my husband and I revert to restaurant meals. We often find ourselves grabbing a “quick” lunch out, or being too tired or ill prepared to make dinner, resulting in a restaurant outing. Eating out seems to be a very easy and comfortable alternative for us. Aside from this, we are huge Starbucks fanatics. Whether it’s frappuccinos, iced tea, hot chocolate, or sweets, one of us would frequent the green mermaid at least once a day. It’s fine when you walk into a place where “everybody knows your name”, I just wish I didn’t hear the sound of a cash register when they are saying it. 
  4. We want to make dining out “special” again. We dine out so often (for work and for fun) that eating out just isn’t a treat like it used to be for us. It has become ritualistic and even a source of argument as we decide where to go to eat. Really, who wants to drop $50-75 on a meal and not really enjoy it? Not me – anymore!
    Dining in allows more control over quality and quantity of food.

    Dining in allows more control over quality and quantity of food.

     

  5. We want to eat healthier at our own price. When we eat out, we are never really sure what is going into our food. Restaurants claim they use the “freshest” foods and “quality” ingredients, but the only people who know if this is true are the people who work there. So, in essence, we could be spending $50 a meal on highly processed food loaded with sugar and salt, when we could have prepared a much healthier, and better tasting, meal at home. It also is difficult to control portion sizes when dining out. Although we’ve tried splitting dishes and foregoing an appetizer, this is just not working for us (especially for my husband’s waistline). By eating at home, we can control what ingredients go into our meals and how much is prepared and consumed. 

When all is said and done, we hope to feel better about what we are eating, save a little money, and become healthier in the process.

Stay tuned to see if we remained steadfast or if we cracked under the pressure of the Starbucks’ sign!

My Kefi – Lost and Found

GREEK LESSONS

Today, I heard a very short but poignant interview with Nia Vardalos, aka the lead actress in My Big Fat Greek Wedding. She is starring in a brand new movie, My Life in Ruins. The movie is about a woman – a tour guide in Greece – who has lost her “kefi” or her mojo – the essence that makes her want to really live life to the fullest. During the interview, Nia mentioned that the movie may strike a cord with viewers now more than ever. She pointed out that with the recession, poor housing market, and unemployment, it is quite apparent that many in the US have lost their mojo.

My life may not be "in ruins", but finding my kefi would be nice.

My life may not be "in ruins", but finding my kefi would be nice.

Wow! That’s me, I thought. Don’t get me wrong, I definitely do not feel like my life is “in ruins”. In fact, I really can’t complain about too much in my life right now, but having to be on a budget and cut back on things that I love to do (ie. travel), brings me down more often than I’d like. Sometimes I feel like my own kefi is just stuck in limbo – I know it’s out there – I have pictures to prove that I had it, I just have to find a way to navigate through the kefi customs department to get it back. And, I know I’m not the only one who feels this way. For instance, a friend of a friend recently became enamored with Brazil after traveling their twice. In the course of a few months, she decided to rent out her condo and move to Brazil for a year with a friend. Now that girl’s got kefi!!

NEED KEFI, WILL TRAVEL

My lonely luggage...

My lonely luggage...

So, after having this revelation, I decided it was time to take action. If I couldn’t find my kefi again, no one was going to do it for me. But how do I get it back? Although I have a few ideas, Europe seems to be top on my list of places where my kefi could be vacationing. Yes, I’m pretty certain that living in a different country, even just for a few months, would help bring back my mojo, but right now, that idea is only a fleeting dream. Naturally, the alternative would be to just visit Europe and other countries. Alas, my meager budget and career responsibilities will not allow me to travel abroad anytime soon. And so, I wondered, if I can’t get to France or Spain, how can I bring their culture and lifestyle here?

IT’S ALL PART OF THE PLAN…

Now, I am a huge advocate of living a European lifestyle in the US – or as close to it as you can get. But, I don’t always practice what I preach. So, as of today I pledge (to myself of course because to anyone else – except maybe my Brazil-bound friend – it would seem neurotic, silly, or just plain strange) that I will do at least one thing a week that reflects the current or past lifestyles of Europeans or – very simply – something that reminds me of Europe. I originally wanted to do one thing a day, but figured I could work up to that – a girl’s got to have goals, right?

These lifestyle changes don’t have to be huge, they merely need to meet three requirements:

  1. Reflect European culture
  2. Fit within my budget and current responsibilities
  3. Most importantly, take me one step closer to finding my kefi

I’m sure in my creative mind, I will think of many things that could fit my criteria, but I’m open to suggestions! If you have a great idea for a way that I can experience a little bit of Europe in my daily life – please send it my way.

Stay tuned for future entries on my path to finding my kefi...

Stay tuned for future entries on my path to finding my kefi...